I actually support this in the same way that I support yanking on bow tie ends to untie them and for the same reason. It reveals the phonies. If one pulls out a normal square of flexible fabric, it's normal. Should some odd thing stapled to cardboard be revealed (or a clip-on bow tie) the wearer should be embarrassed beyond belief.

Mainly I have the issue of women asking for kleenex, being given a cloth hankerchief and declining because "it's to nice" which is inane.

 

No, I don't. I have one acquaintance who will occasionally pull it out and redo it; I can't say much; it is work-related and I prefer to just quietly put it back to how I wore it in the first place.

I'm not a fan. Unless it's someone I'm really close to, I don't fiddle with others' clothing. If a tie has slipped out of place or something, I quietly mention it to them and suggest they find a mirror.

 

Only once.

 

I actually support this in the same way that I support yanking on bow tie ends to untie them and for the same reason. It reveals the phonies. If one pulls out a normal square of flexible fabric, it's normal. Should some odd thing stapled to cardboard be revealed (or a clip-on bow tie) the wearer should be embarrassed beyond belief.

Mainly I have the issue of women asking for kleenex, being given a cloth hankerchief and declining because "it's to nice" which is inane.

Why would you want to expose a phony?

 

Two people pulled on mine at a party over the weekend. One woman pulled it out a couple inches while commenting on it (leaving it sticking out too far), and another woman pulled it out completely, then gave it back to me after commenting on it.

These were married woman with their spouses present, so it wasn't really flirting like it might sound, more just normal socializing, in the spirit of being fun.

I am not that uptight that it bothered me much, I just stuffed it back. But I have to think this happens a lot. Anyone got any funny stories about this phenomenon?

Oh, yes it was! Married, tipsy and spouses present. What more evidence do you need?

Darn! Nobody's yankin' on my PS! :angry:

A couple more drinks and you well may have encountered, "This is nice! Can I have it?"

 

I made the decision years ago to just quit going to parties where alcohol is served. My wife and I are self-employed so we do not need to impress any superiors. I just have no desire to dress up and walk around making niceties to people who are just getting hammered on free booze. I simply do not see the allure of such events.

And, by the way, the women WERE flirting with you.

 

And, by the way, the women WERE flirting with you.

+infinity

to put it as the young people are saying these days, and much more crass "they wanted the D"

 

I have had people touch my pocket square to examine it, but no one has tried to pull it out. The way I feel about it is, if you take off any of my clothing I have every right to remove something of yours (and I get to choose).

 

I don't wear them so...

 

I made the decision years ago to just quit going to parties where alcohol is served. My wife and I are self-employed so we do not need to impress any superiors. I just have no desire to dress up and walk around making niceties to people who are just getting hammered on free booze. I simply do not see the allure of such events.

And, by the way, the women WERE flirting with you.

+1 and a Good decision! At a young age, my old man introduced me to the downside of drunks and as a consequence, I avoid them, if at all possible, as well.

As to member Tempest's advocacy of pulling on peoples bow ties, that seems a risky pursuit. When the bow tie comes off, the gentleman may go off duty, as well!

 

I actually support this in the same way that I support yanking on bow tie ends to untie them

Fixing a bowtie is an ordeal. I would never support intentionally doing that to somebody.

Yanking a pocket square, though... I consider mildly rude and potentially all in good fun among friends. I doubt I would ever do it, but I would not be upset at having it done to me.

Someone who cannot afford $120 for a perfect pocket square but still strives to be fashionable is a phony? I'll stick to my parties and judge people for reasons other than deigning to dress better than their wallets permit.

 

Many moons ago, I had a coworker inquire if she could have my suspenders (Braces.) if she gave me something in return.

Ahhh . . . . those were the days! :great:

 

I would reveal my dagger at this moment ... :great:

 

Were anyone to ever pull on my pocket square, or to pull at my tie or bow tie, I would assume such behavior was either flirtatious or (at least) mildly aggressive, depending on the source. As it is, the only person who does this to me with any regularity is my husband, and he has special privileges in these matters .

 

This has never happened to me. Were it to then I should be obliged to consider it a hostile act, responding as appropriate. Thankfully God saw fit to endow me with a demeanour which disinclines others from considering interference.

 

I would have told her, "Hate to tell you, but that's the special cloth I use for cleaning my man parts."

 

My stepson used to think it was fun to grab my pocket square and run off with it. Fortunately, he has matured since then.

 

My stepson used to think it was fun to grab my pocket square and run off with it. Fortunately, he has matured since then.

As good a reason as any to carefully limit children's alcohol consumption.

 

Fixing a bowtie is an ordeal. I would never support intentionally doing that to somebody.

Fixing a bowtie is no different than retying a shoelace, literally. That said, if someone other than my wife untied my bowtie, an unpleasant comsequence would surely follow.

 

Why would you want to expose a phony?

I guess I was influenced by old Loony Tunes cartoons where the false shirt front would roll up in a comedic manner. Deceptic and insincere clothing is worthy of scorn to some degree.

Fixing a bowtie is an ordeal.

Really? It's that much harder than tying a shoe? Maybe I'm not fussy enough.

 

Thankfully God saw fit to endow me with a demeanour which disinclines others from considering interference.

....

 

It's a fine line to tread when fidgeting with another person's clothing. I know a woman here who pulled out my pocket square once or twice. We're not particularly close, she's just very touchy-feely with everyone. This person doing it annoyed the hell out of me. Once she pulled it out and rubbed it against her cheek to feel how soft it was. When she went to give it back I said, "Nah, you keep it" and that's the last time she ever pulled out my PS. Honestly, I didn't want to touch it after that. I avoid her these days and when I can't do that, keep a safe distance.

 

^Bertha Ung?

 

This is why I generally avoid drunk women. Not that I have had that particular experience, but I've found that drunk women feel at liberty to be flirty with men which I find neither endearing or stimulating.

 

I made the decision years ago to just quit going to parties where alcohol is served. My wife and I are self-employed so we do not need to impress any superiors. I just have no desire to dress up and walk around making niceties to people who are just getting hammered on free booze. I simply do not see the allure of such events.

And, by the way, the women WERE flirting with you.

I certainly can't see the point of a party where alcohol is not served!