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I've always struggled to find casual OTR clothing that fits me well.

The clothing is either too tight in some areas, or way too loose & baggy.

For this reason, I've never asked nor wanted my wife to shop for clothing on my behalf. On the occasions that she thoughtfully did, I inevitably wind up having to return or exchange the items.

The only exception to this has been shoes, but I'm finding myself wanting to pick-out my own shoes more and more in recent years.

While buying MTM or Bespoke clothing can help, there are still not that many options for MTM or Bespoke casual clothing (i.e. denim jeans, button-up short sleeve shirts). Tailoring is an option as well, but it can be rather expensive, especially for casual clothing.

Thank goodness for spandex/lycra/elastane, because at least now I can find clothes that not only fit me better, but are exponentially more comfortable to wear.

I was talking to my friend Ben (who is Youtuber in the UK) about this recently while at the Menfulential Conference in Atlanta, and we thought it would be fun to have Ben put together a video about this very topic.


Here's the companion article:

Do you pick out your own clothes? Or do you have your wife/partner/S.O. pick them out for you?
 

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The way sizing is these days, it is hard enough for me to pick my own clothes out. Used to have a nice system, but with HSM and Hickey Freeman harder to find, Brooks Brothers making inferior products, and everyone else going slim fit - getting harder even if you know what you like.
 

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I allowed my then girlfriend (now wife) to pick out some new additions to the wardrobe for me when we first started dating. That was a mistake as it was almost 2k blown at Nordstrom. I think I only have 2 pairs of jeans. The rest of the stuff is sitting in the closet or I “secretly” donated. That was the first and LAST time I make that mistake. I have always done my own thing and other than that one experience will continue to pick my own. :)
 

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Well, I pick my own, but considering I essentially dress the same as I did as a kid (chinos, OCBDs, etc), I suppose my dad dresses me by proxy (and really, me, my father, and my grandfather all pretty much dress identically: "preppy")

I've ventured into different looks at times, as suggested by significant others, but it never felt right, so I return to the old standards.

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@mrkleen I couldn't agree with you more.

@Dcr5468 do you have any guidelines that you follow as it pertains to picking out timeless pieces? Or is that a bit more subjective?
Virtually everything I wore in college 30+ years ago is still relevant today. Button down OCBD, chinos, penny loafers, seersucker, dirty bucks, navy blazers.....More so on the trad forum.

For dressier attire (suits, shoes, etc) I gravitate more to this particular forum.

Everything you need is here, via search or posing a question to the gentlemen and scholars that frequent Andy's forums.

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Since I have known exactly what I've wanted to wear for the past twenty years, there's no way I'm ever happy if someone else picks out my clothes. My dad will occasionally find something for me, but generally only braces or pocket squares. Most other things are generally not going to fit me. Most clothes are too shrunken in their fit, and if they have a traditional fit they're usually too baggy. In knitwear I can wear anything from an XS to a M, depending on the fit.
 

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I buy my own 100%, except for gifts I receive. In my view, any man worth his sartorial salt will do his own shopping like any grown up self actualizing human should.

I am a highly targeted male shopper. I research on line, I estimate the price per wear value based on my research, and I know exactly where to go to make my purchase. Efficient, cold, merciless, like a highly trained sartorial assassin :). I drive my family mad at Christmas. "Here is what I desire, here is what it costs, and here is where you will buy it." 'Tis the season....

A few years ago, I asked my wife to pick up a few shirts while on leave in the US. That was a tremendous mistake that I shall never repeat. Women, in my experience, tend to dress their men like overgrown adolescents. Mommy knows best.

Your mileage may vary depending on your make and model. But it probably won't.

Cheers,

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I've been picking my own clothes since I was just 12 years old and, given my arguably stubborn nature, suspect it is too late to change now. As several others noted, my choices are pretty basic, decidedly conservative and ever consistent...Khakis (22 pair at the present point), OCBD's (I'm quite literally afraid to count them!), Navy Blazers (four currently hang in my closet), collared, knit polo shirts, penny loafers, long wings, and boat shoes, etc! I have worn various uniforms at different times for most of my life. The items described above constitute my civilian uniform (of sorts).

Having said all of that, my conscience compels me to give the wife credit, where credit is due. While she does not shop for my clothes, her hand has touched virtually every garment in my closet, as she gave of her skills as a seamstress altering and improving the fit of virtually every garment in my closet. She has actually made me a few (sports) shirts along the way! ;)
 
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