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The Internet has impacted world society in ways still being revealed. We lament loss of the cursive art, engaging people in the real world for affairs of import now tossed off with an email ' Oh, I am sleeping with a new boyfriend, please delete me from your MYSPACE friendslist.'
There can be wonderfull joys too. I get to communicate daily with my girl in Romania as easilly as a brother an hour's drive away. And on a long ago chatsite, I made friends with a scottish boy in Glasgow, very introverted and insecure, but who drew the most incredible dragons and wrote the seedlings of great fiction.
I was online at a rediculous hour when he came online. His 'mum' had passed away, and he was alone in a home with distant relatives taking controll of his life, unsure about efverything. We talked for 3 hours straight.
I think the sudden loss of the website without exchanging so simple a connection as an email was as great a loss as a friend's departure in the 'real world.'
And just tonight I se a posting on the forum I moderate. Imagine a member with # 38 in a readership approaching the high 5 figure mark. He's been around for 8 years. And in a brief note he explained he was in the final stages of terminal cancer that was caught to late, spread rapidly and wouldn't be posting again and thankyou for the fun and goodbye.
And I'm sitting here stunned. He was just a name online, sombody my website's owner met once testing gear with other members in Northern California. But he was, is no LT Kinje of fabrication. And it's just plain depressing.
 

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First, I offer my sincere condolence for the loss you are suffering. The Internet is at once, a curse and a blessing...it can open many doors, that would be otherwise, unavailable to us. But such doors will eventually close and we find ourselves, with increasing frequency, enduring the pain of losing a friend or simply an acquaintance. In the process of working through such pain we can very easily lose our awareness of what a blessing such relationships might have represented in our lives and perhaps, we experience an erosion of our appreciation for such. Restoring our focus on the many positives such relationships bring into our lives, makes each of us stronger and honors the life and/or memory of the other person involved.

Kav, my hope is that both you and your friend, find peace and deep meaning in your lives and great promise in what the future might hold for you!
 

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Sorry

Kav

I too am sorry for your loss. As you say, a friend who probably needed a lot in his life. Got this from you online.
I admire your compassion KAV.
This man probably knew KAV, before telling any one.
He was probably looking for someone, something.
Again KAV, admire you compassion.
This is much more devasting in real life, so to say

Nice day KAV
 

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My sympathies, sir. The blessing of acquaintance makes the loss personal. But I think from reading your writings for about a year now, you'd have it no other way. And perhaps you are there for them in their time of need and sorrow.
 

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My condolences for your loss.

Your post illustrates the phenomenal power of the internet. People complain about technology driving people apart, but you illustrate, as does this site, the way that it can bring people together who would never have the chance to meet in person.
 
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