[triklops55]

If someone was to say I was "overdressed" I'd respond with: "By whose standards?"

I've never gotten that one. I have gotten: "Why so dressed up?" or "Why are you wearing a suit?" To which I usually reply: "Because why not."

 

[triklops55]

Given that it's a work environment and these are women making the remarks, just stay quiet.

To do otherwise is an invitation to be the next #MeToo poster boy.

I don't see how a discussion about the level of formality of clothes would ever lead to this. Not unless he says: "You're right. I am overdressed" and then proceeds to remove all his clothes.

 

[triklops55]

Are you willing to bet your career on this? I'm being totally serious. Perhaps not the place to discuss this but we live in a different world now.

A well dressed man exudes toxic masculinity, no? Disagree and I'll label you as someone who perpetuates male dominance and intimidation at work.

I don't know about toxic masculinity but a man that's well dressed by this forum's standards does, IMO, exude an air of masculinity and power. I know my experiences are different than yours. I mean, I'm pretty certain that if I were to have a discussion with a woman about the level of formality of clothes it would not be taken the wrong way. Not sure how that would work out for others though.

 

[triklops55]

You dress how you feel.

Exactly. I see other people -- men and women -- look ridiculous. Like they're wearing a costume, so why can't I wear something that I think looks good and makes me feel good?
Sometimes, if a good looking woman asks me why I'm so dressed up, I'll say: "Because I look good. Don't you think?" I've never gotten a negative reply from that.