Does "no gifts, please" really mean no gifts?
Two of my very best friends have been together for 10 years and are having a commitment ceremony/celebration next weekend. They've rented a beach house on Cape Cod and are having the ceremony on the beach Friday evening. I'd say there will be about 40 people (it's just friends--most of us in our 20's and 30's). The invitation says "no gifts, please". Should I or should I not get them a gift?
Also, on Saturday night there is a birthday celebration because one of them is turning 30. Can I get a gift for her for her birthday?