no gifts, please...

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jkins25

Discussion Starter · Oct 4, 2008

Does "no gifts, please" really mean no gifts?

Two of my very best friends have been together for 10 years and are having a commitment ceremony/celebration next weekend. They've rented a beach house on Cape Cod and are having the ceremony on the beach Friday evening. I'd say there will be about 40 people (it's just friends--most of us in our 20's and 30's). The invitation says "no gifts, please". Should I or should I not get them a gift?
Also, on Saturday night there is a birthday celebration because one of them is turning 30. Can I get a gift for her for her birthday?
Help!
Thank you!

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Rilian

· #2 · Oct 4, 2008 (Edited)

No gifts really means no gifts. I'd get a card instead.

Receiving gifts can be an inconvenience, especially if you don't have a lot of space or don't like the gift.

Some people, instead of expecting gifts, ask their friends to donate something to a charity instead. You might ask your friends if you can donate something to charity in their names.

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Rilian

· #5 · Oct 5, 2008

Canadian said:
I think when full grown adults get married/recognized as life partners, they should as a matter of tact state that they specifically don't want gifts. After all, as adults they've already bought the microwave and espresso maker and all those nice crystal things we bring out for special occasions. So they really don't need all those gifts we traditionally give as wedding gifts.

I'm 27, and I find that as I get older I get more discerning and picky, which makes it quite difficult for people to get gifts for me. Thankfully, I use Amazon wishlist which now has a "Universal Wishlist Button," letting me add any item from any webpage to the wishlist. That way others don't have to guess what I like, and I can still get surprised.

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