Yes.

I usually say something like "I'd post stuff like that on Facebook if I never needed to apply for a job again ever. Good for you!!"

 

No - it's an interesting issue but I think there's a real chance that you could be perceived as rather an interfering meddler, if not a borderline stalker.

Should you be micro-managing your friend's life?

 

Not unless you're married.

 

I'd steer clear of that one, it isn't the same as telling a buddy their barn door is open.

Anyone on FB is or should be aware that their posts can be seen by the general population. One of its many curses,IMO.

 

I'd steer clear of that one, it isn't the same as telling a buddy their barn door is open.

Anyone on FB is or should be aware that their posts can be seen by the general population. One of its many curses,IMO.

Barn door is open? The mind boggles. Go on then - what does that mean?

 

Shaver my friend, I think that refers to a gentleman's trouser zipper being in the non-optimal state for public display xD

 

Shaver my friend, I think that refers to a gentleman's trouser zipper being in the non-optimal state for public display xD

Much obliged, Sir.

 

My recommendation as to anyone's posting(s) on any of the various social media is don't. All such innocuous ramblings and photo's can potentially come back to haunt us in oh-so-many ways that are just downright undesirable! Write your letters, mail them your photographs, but stay away from Facebook!

 

My recommendation as to anyone's posting(s) on any of the various social media is don't. All such innocuous ramblings and photo's can potentially come back to haunt us in oh-so-many ways that are just downright undesirable! Write your letters, mail them your photographs, but stay away from Facebook!

That's probably prudent.

I've already had to intervene with a young family member who was posting VERY inappropriate stuff on FB. Basically, party pictures that strongly suggest that said family member drinks a lot and smokes a lot of pot. Neither is necessarily true, but one would have reason to jump to conclusions. I both ratted her out to her clueless parents and yelled at her for being a dumb-ass. There are a few relatively embarrassing pictures of me in existence, but they are buried deep inside shoe boxes in the back of the closet and have no digital existence on any server, let alone the internet.

 

I think you could get away with something like "those pix really don't do you justice", but no more than that. She's made a conscious decision to release this stuff to the world at large, so denigrating it is more akin to telling her she has poor judgment than telling a guy his zipper's down, a mistake.

 

NO. Let fools learn by their mistakes.

 

Posting anything on social media that can be traced back to oneself is fraught with potential for embarrassment.

 

The fact you are a male critiquing a female is one mark against it. The fact you are hesitant seals the deal.

 

It's tricky. Some employers will use FB to check applicants. Some will view the "party pictures" as a sign of someone who is fairly normal and sociable, whilst others will believe this individual drinks to excess and is therefor unreliable.

My advice? Use the privacy settings!

 

Yes.

But you have to prepare the conversation: let her know you care about her, not 'rules'. Then make sure to frame your comments in her terms, "WIIFM".

"I've been thinking about your online profile, and I'm concerned you're giving the wrong impression. Those of us who know you well think X of you, but everyone who doesn't can only see Y being represented. I know it's common in social media, but it's really the same as being in a public place. Would you want people to see you like that at a restaurant?"

 

This is like chiding someone for being drunk in a whorehouse. Being drunk pales in comparison to being in the whorehouse. Get out of the whorehouse!

 

This is like chiding someone for being drunk in a whorehouse. Being drunk pales in comparison to being in the whorehouse. Get out of the whorehouse!

Sorry, I got lost on the way in.

Or something.

:redface:

 

Yes, I think you should but tell it to her in a nice manner so she understands.

 

I'd say "no," but I ditched facebook in 2009 and never got to see any of these slowly sinking ships so I am always unsure of just how bad it could be. On the other hand, I'd also recommend "no" because... do you really, honestly not want to slow down and look when you pass a really catastrophic car accident?

 

Owing to the large amount of casework which results from Facebook, I'm constantly telling folk to only post on FB (and other social media) what they would be happy to have their boss read!

I've seen too many folks lose their jobs and careers through their 'gross misconduct' in posting inappropriately to FB.

 

Not unless you're married.

...and even then. I unfriended my own wife on fakebook because of the silly and embarrassing stuff she was posting.

 

Unfriending one's wife. How did that go over?