I disagree with the first section and agree with the second. Matching is less of a concern than coordinating. You really aren't putting together an "outfit" because it's not like a twinset... just make sure they look good together. Sometimes a little clash is good.Hat to coat.
Gloves to coat.
Scarf to coat.
Shoe to what is under the coat.
To be just a little sexist, don't "womanize" this. You're not puting together an "outfit".