[Scottish Leanne]

Hi guys/girls, I am new to this forum .

My first post is about my 8yr old daughter Bethany who is very active and does like going outdoors as much as possible, mainly playing with her friends or going to the play park and she is also a member of guides so every so often she goes on weekend camping trips. However, Bethany is in such a rush to go out and enjoy herself that she forgets to remember to zip up her jacket due to her asthma, so any tips or advice on getting her to remember to zip it up?

 

[vonSuess]

No.

 

[cortman]

What the heck

 

[Orsini]

By nagging, I guess.

 

[Scottish Leanne]

Am I going to get some serious answers because so far only Orsini has given a good bit of advice!?

 

[eagle2250]

As a father of two adult daughters, both of whom were afflicted with asthma, and as a grandfather of seven (clearly extraordinary/exceptional) grandchildren, I am sorry to admit that the only advice I have to offer is do your best to remind Bethany to zip up her jacket. Badgering provides only limited success, but it grants some sense of being able to do something. My daughters convinced me that I could control their actions and exert the most control over their behavior, only so long as they were within my or their mother's sight. Beyond that, they did what they did crazy! The nest thing we could do was to insure they carried their rescue inhalers with them when they were out.

I am pleased to say, in spite of all our parental foibles, the daughters survived, becoming adults and gracing us with three and four grandchildren, respectively. During the age of the grandchildren, the inmates have truly taken over the asylum! LOL. I sincerely do hope this helps.

 

[Dhaller]

In my family, my wife is the "jacket enforcer"; I always remind her that children simply have a different thermostat than adults do, and there's probably good evolutionary sense behind it. There must be a reason they kick their covers off on a winter night as we shiver under ours!

So put me in the "remind, don't hector" camp. If I see her jacketless or unzipped and I feel it's to cold, I just deadpan "put your jacket on" or "zip your jacket up", and don't really press it. My daughter is 5, and her latest thing is to drape a coat over her shoulders like an Italian dandy: "that's just going to fall off when you run... sleeves?" and she usually puts it on properly.

(Be glad you don't simply have a disrober: I have arrived at the park to find my daughter shoeless, leggings pushed up to the knees, and just wearing a camisole while her friends are in down jackets. I don't know, she's very athletic, so I chalk it up to a busy motor.)

Now, one thing that *does* work with *my* daughter, when I really need compliance with dress - and I always feel a bit guilty/bad doing so - is to leverage her vanity: "it's not really pretty that way, but if that's what you want, okay..." That gets her "zipped up" quickly!

DH

 

[cortman]

Am I going to get some serious answers because so far only Orsini has given a good bit of advice!?

This just strikes me as a very strange place to ask for super basic parenting advice, especially as your first/second post.

 

[Scottish Leanne]

In my family, my wife is the "jacket enforcer"; I always remind her that children simply have a different thermostat than adults do, and there's probably good evolutionary sense behind it. There must be a reason they kick their covers off on a winter night as we shiver under ours!

So put me in the "remind, don't hector" camp. If I see her jacketless or unzipped and I feel it's to cold, I just deadpan "put your jacket on" or "zip your jacket up", and don't really press it. My daughter is 5, and her latest thing is to drape a coat over her shoulders like an Italian dandy: "that's just going to fall off when you run... sleeves?" and she usually puts it on properly.

(Be glad you don't simply have a disrober: I have arrived at the park to find my daughter shoeless, leggings pushed up to the knees, and just wearing a camisole while her friends are in down jackets. I don't know, she's very athletic, so I chalk it up to a busy motor.)

Now, one thing that *does* work with *my* daughter, when I really need compliance with dress - and I always feel a bit guilty/bad doing so - is to leverage her vanity: "it's not really pretty that way, but if that's what you want, okay..." That gets her "zipped up" quickly!

DH

To be fair there are times I do exactly that and she cooperates , she knows when me or her sister just simply say "it's raining, please zip your jacket" that we will not take any arguments. Bethany's bad habit at the minute is getting me or her sister to do things that she knows she is capable of. She is also affectionate too though as she gives goodnight kisses/cuddles to me and her sister plus she likes holding mine and her sisters hand whilst walking .

 

[drlivingston]

Greetings, @Scottish Leanne. First of all, welcome to the forums. Second, you are to be commended for getting your daughter to wear a jacket in the first place. I, like you, am the father of an 8 year old daughter. Like me, she shuns any thoughts of outerwear. When I was her age, I was seemingly impervious to cold temperatures. We had moved from Hawaii to Alabama (imagine that culture shock). It was my first experience with semi-cold temperatures. I refused to even wear a shirt with long sleeves.
Unfortunately, my daughter inherited that part of my DNA. She is so skinny that you would think the cold would affect her. But, alas, all of our best efforts have been in vain. Plus, on the rare occasion that we get her to wear a jacket, you can be assured that it is removed as soon as us crusty parents are out of sight.
We were in Pennsylvania over Christmas. It rarely ventured above -15 degrees Celsius the entire tire we were there. Still, when you see the family photos, she is easy to spot. While everyone is bundled up, she is happily prancing around in a t-shirt. We surrendered... My advice, be appreciative that she wears the jacket. Don't major in the minors. If she prefers it unzipped, let it go. It's not worth the struggle.

 

[Scottish Leanne]

Greetings, @Scottish Leanne. First of all, welcome to the forums. Second, you are to be commended for getting your daughter to wear a jacket in the first place. I, like you, am the father of an 8 year old daughter. Like me, she shuns any thoughts of outerwear. When I was her age, I was seemingly impervious to cold temperatures. We had moved from Hawaii to Alabama (imagine that culture shock). It was my first experience with semi-cold temperatures. I refused to even wear a shirt with long sleeves.
Unfortunately, my daughter inherited that part of my DNA. She is so skinny that you would think the cold would affect her. But, alas, all of our best efforts have been in vain. Plus, on the rare occasion that we get her to wear a jacket, you can be assured that it is removed as soon as us crusty parents are out of sight.
We were in Pennsylvania over Christmas. It rarely ventured above -15 degrees Celsius the entire tire we were there. Still, when you see the family photos, she is easy to spot. While everyone is bundled up, she is happily prancing around in a t-shirt. We surrendered... My advice, be appreciative that she wears the jacket. Don't major in the minors. If she prefers it unzipped, let it go. It's not worth the struggle.

I was just going to ask how you manage to get her to zip up but I think you answered that lol.

 

[Sameera11]

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[drpeter]

As a father of two daughters, both of whom were afflicted with asthma, I am sorry to admit that the only advice I have to offer is to do your best to remind Bethany to zip up her jacket. Badgering provides only limited success, but it grants some sense of being able to do something. My daughters convinced me that I could control their actions and exert the most control over their behavior, only so long as they were within my or their mother's sight. Also, try using would you rather questions to make them learn about the consequences some actions might have playfully.

Why have you plagiarized @eagle2250's post above?