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I just got killed in an ebay auction for a pair of cufff links suitable for a tuxedo. I have a wedding coming up (I'm the best man) and mercifully I will be able to wear my own tux so I wanted some really nice onyx cufflinks to go with it. Since most "formalwear" ones are tragic disasters that look like tiny plastic discs I wanted something with some pizazz. These are from Dolan Bullock who are respectable if not exactly the greatest. these would appear to be very high in their range or were as I dont think they make them anymore but if you go to ebay and perform a search on:

170310818711

just put that number in the search bar, then scroll all the way down you will see them. Tell me what you think? are they too flashy/gaudy? tasteful? I thought they were unreal but so did about 10 other people who bid like 45 times to get them. I guess that A. the economy ain't all bad and B. wedding season is coming since a number of bidders were brand new which means they were on a specific mission.

If anyone knows where I could find another pair of these let me know but I dont have much hope for it, I'll have to go to plan B.
 

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Every wedding I've attended had the obligatory female guest with her breasts all but displayed on a silver serving tray to upstage the bride.

Do you want to be the male version of that pathos?

www.kentwang.com onyx cufflinks in sterling silver and matching studs $45 each, free shipping.
 

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Really? too much bling I suppose. I will see what I can find in traditional onyx encased in silver or gold sans any stones. You do have to remember however that they are really tiny in real life so the bling factor is minimized by their tiny scale - in any case they are gone.
 

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May I remind you that simplicity, especially in evening wear, trumps complexity? This next part is off topic, but this is why, I believe, the opera pump, a slipper that simply slips on and off, is "more" correct than a shoe requiring lace up.
 

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Every wedding I've attended had the obligatory female guest with her breasts all but displayed on a silver serving tray to upstage the bride.

Do you want to be the male version of that pathos?

www.kentwang.com onyx cufflinks in sterling silver and matching studs $45 each, free shipping.
No I certainly don't although I will keep an eye out for that obligatory female!

Ok I get it - gaudy - check! I guess I was distracted by something shiny.
 

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I personally don't think they're so awful. With plain square onyx studs they'd be very nice for most black tie events. But they would be a bit flashy for a wedding.

One of the roles of a best man is to get the groom to the ceremony and make sure he's looking his best. The best man also has to look his best without showing up the groom.

I strongly recommend The Best Man's Handbook:

https://search.barnesandnoble.com/Best-Mans-Handbook/James-Grace/e/9780762418152/?itm=1

Hopefully your friend won't be getting married again, so it's important that the wedding day, the events leading up to it, and the events following run as smoothly as possible.
 

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Read the Bible. I believe it was king David who wore a breastplate covered in diamonds.

Current standards call for men to wear a minimum of 'jewelry' comprising of ;watch,cufflinks, belt buckle and wedding ring.

You could probably add collar bars, tie bars or tacks, glasses and the in vogue lapel pins and pocketwatch chains.

The intinsic beauty of a diamond is to create colour vs the other precious stones that contain colour.

If a 'gentleman' wishes to wear a diamond with less 'bling' an antique specimen or one delibereately cut in the older forms would yield a understated, yet elegant ( and expensive) compromise.
 

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I will see what I can find in traditional onyx encased in silver or gold sans any stones.
Hello,
Perhaps this might help with the search:

https://www.armourwinston.co.uk/items.asp?ID=5

https://www.mplevene.co.uk/searchresults.aspx?categoryid=1140

Finally here are, in my opinion, the 5 finest jewellers in London. Despite specialising in the very highest end of the market they will all be able to order simple Onyx and silver or gold designs at surprisingly competitive prices and they're all worth emailing:

https://www.harveyandgore.co.uk/cufflinks-3.html

www.Bentley-Skinner.co.uk

https://www.wartski.com/jewelset.htm

https://www.hamiltonandinches.com/boutique/?q=catalog/12&fprice=&ftype=13

Generally speaking, all the best jewellers will source their cufflinks from one or more of three companies all based in Birmingham. They are Deakin and Francis (they supply Havey and Gore with their modern links amongst many, many others), Alabaster and Wilson (SJ Phillips use them for most of their modern links) and KJD which is part of Toye, Kenning and Spencer and supplies Bentley and Skinner with their silver designs. MP Levene sells a combination of designs from all 3 firms and Hamilton and Inches mainly sells KJD designs.

Sorry this is so long but hope it helps a bit,

Chris.
 

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I am hard pressed to see how one could put diamond encrusted cuff links in anything other than the "Gaudy" category. Though I am sure some could wear them and pull it off seamlessly, I could not...or at least would not attempt it! I am much more of a 'plain Jane' than that.
 

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Spectacularly gaudy!

You do have to remember however that they are really tiny in real life so the bling factor is minimized by their tiny scale - in any case they are gone.
16 mm x16 mm (5/8" x 5/8") is about the size of my thumbnail. I do not consider those "tiny" for cufflinks, personally. Not that there's anything wrong with that, in Seinfeldese.

Chris, with a couple of his exhaustively researched links, has at least shown that U. K. jewelers have that sort of "gaudy" for someone. I suppose critics would say "oil-rich sheiks" or "nouveau-riche AIG bonus-men."

I don't have a large problem with them per se. Worn with evening wear, they would look a little ostentatious, but still all right, although a bit competitive for a best man. Naturally, we are discussing this academically, since they are "gone" from eBay. I didn't think the going price particularly outrageous. I also don't think a man's wearing diamond jewelry to be outrageous either. The list of "allowable" jewelry should at least include a class or other ring on the right hand in addition to a wedding ring, if any, which could be a diamond as well as any number of colored stones. I just think this anti-jewelry thing is far too puritanical.
 

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I hate cufflinks. Some people look great with them. I feel like a team leader in a call centre if I even comtemplate wearing them. Or a car salesman.

I find it much more satisfying (and, in an age of cretinous default cufflink wearers, unique) to add sartorial touches with a pocket square, or socks, or a tie.
 
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