[paxonus]

Talk to your wife to be. Explain to her that besides schlepping across the country to attend your wedding, you don't want to burden them further with the expense of buying new clothing.

Discuss it with her, the way married couples discuss things. Her family doesn't matter. What matters is what the two of you want. Time to grow up and make decisions together without the input of your families.

No offense intended, but, are you married?

 

[paxonus]

There is no special music playing when you walk down the aisle. Nobody stands and watches you as you approach the altar. The words in the ceremony are "who giveth this woman to be married." It is much more about her than it is about you.

 

[paxonus]

Why? I've never understood that.

Let him foot the bill but he doesn't get a say. Otherwise, don't. The couple should have the wedding they want and that they can afford.

Christ! Call your own shots. Make your own decisions. Otherwise, both sets of mommies and daddies are going to micro manage your lives. Cut the cord and be grown ups. That why you get married.

What's not to understand? The brides parents have been paying for the wedding for centuries across many cultures. It used to be called a dowry. As for the father getting a say, he almost never does. He is just expected to open his wallet.

 

[paxonus]

Not a single one of them could get the right length of pants. They all have a belt showing below the bottom of the vest. If you are going this route, do it right.