Another option is to ask them if they have a dark suit and buy them a tie or pocket square to coordinate with the colors of the wedding. There’s no need for your groomsmen to match.
I completely understand the instinct but at some point a married couple needs to start making decisions for themselves. Otherwise both will be stuck in a state of perpetual adolescence.LOL. While I applaud what you are proposing and would gladly have followed such advice back in the day, at this point in my life I feel compelled to ask; "have you met Bridezilla and more importantly have you met her mother?" The maternal seed of Bridezilla is indeed both a fearsome and a loathsome beast, One that is best avoided whenever possible! As both a former groom and as the father of two brides, I have learned that there is but one right answer to whatever outrageous requests the bride and/or her mother might voice...and that is "Yes dear and for how much might I make out the check !" LOL.
Your comments are at odds with themselves.lol, dude really?
not to mention it's what she wants as well since, again, that is what is the "norm" in the NE USA.
i have never seen mismatched groomsman in real life and to be quite honest i think it looks fairly terrible in the photos i've seen. that's not to say it isn't the right approach, more convenient (for some) and can't be done well.
Why? I've never understood that.Not to mention, her dad is footing the bill! That alone confers a certain amount of veto power.
Arranged marriages were also the norm. So was marrying your 13 year old daughter to a 50 year old man.What's not to understand? The brides parents have been paying for the wedding for centuries across many cultures. It used to be called a dowry. As for the father getting a say, he almost never does. He is just expected to open his wallet.